Dancing with a partner requires a lot of the same skills as good improv. It’s all about “Yes, and” and making your partner look good, no matter what crazy shenanigans they’ve got up to. I love good improv and good partner dancing, but it’s also true that I have a high maintenance partner and a higher-than-average level of social awkwardness. My life is spent in constant conscious awareness of “how can I ‘Yes, and’ this?” and “what is the next right action that will make my partner and I both feel supported in this situation?”

When I dance, it is my opportunity to say, “No. This is my body and I will move it only however I want. You dance your own dance. Feel free to dance nearby and admire my dancing.”